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RED FLAGS
Red flags Red flags if you are a female, the c word, the b word, the s word. The words that judge your appearance e.g fat, ugly, spotty, Old, scruffy, miserable, saggy, thin, which is an insult in t ........
ENVY
Envy is irrational Don’t envy any girl for her looks . I was envied for being skinny as if it was some compliment. The girl who profess ed her envy was middle-class and wealthy. Whereas I was a sing ........
SELF ESTEEM FOR GIRLS
Dove soap launched a campaign for Girls to be confident about their bodies. It reminded me of my female critics on a beauty course in the late eighties. I was sixteen and slim. All I had for that ye ........
MADELINE ALBRIGHT
The late politian was famous for her belief in helping other women. The wise lady was mother to three daughters. Well, I tell you what help I want from my own gender:: Dont stare at my spotty face. ........
SILENCE IS GOLDEN
Silence to a narc is punishing, but to their victim it is self protection. What has it protected us from? Petty criticism of behaviour, appearance and speech. For example, can he criticize for shout ........
NARCISSISTIC KARMA
Don’t get your hopes up yet readers! There was a story online about narcs getting their karma, well, As you know from previous blogs my mother is leaving Bryan since he spoilt our Christmas with his ........
PLATELL IS WRONG
Amanda platell is a fine writer, But in the daily mail Saturday she claimed no women of our generation has been called a ‘slut’. I will tell you a story about my student days. I was walking through ........
SELECTIVE EMPATHY
Selective empathy By this I mean limited empathy or conditional empathy as empathy is not unconditional. Mother’s talk of unconditional love from their sprogs. There is no such concept as unjudgeme ........
THE SQUEEZE
The squeeze All poor aspire to be middle-class. They did in the seventies when factory worker parents took out a mortgage on a bungalow. They did not aspire to be stinking rich just respectably weal ........
SMUGNESS
Smugness takes many forms: I am privileged so I can judge the homeless, the underclass, the ones living in rented accommodation, I am intellectually superior especially over the less abled. There ar ........
ENTITLED
Stepdad is entitled, he is entitled to his holidays, he is entitled to mentally abuse both of us, he is entitled to lie in bed all day while we do all the work including putting out rubbish. His ent ........
SCOLD,S BRIDLE
I feel the need to add to my rant on witchfinder program on BBC. I pointed out that it was age inappropriate considering all Hopkins victims were elders. Since then I have seen another clip of the ........
WOMEN,S DAY AND MARY WHITEHOUSE
Women,s day is a whitewash over the reality of our lives. We are less safe, more sexualised, more objectified than ever. Porn has destroyed women’s rights, women,s empowerment and overshadowed all o ........
FORGIVE NOT FORGIVE, FORGET, BE TOLERANT, SEE
The good, there is good and bad in everyone. They are outdated clichés which the naive to chose to cling onto. They are dangerous Myths that deep down everyone can Be redeemed by some buried goodnes ........
NARCISSISTIC GROWTH
Narcs don’t grow emotionally as they are cognitively stunted by by a lack of empathy/ sympathy. Now, you will recall when I told you of my suicidal intentions over Christmas. What I left out was tha ........
WITCH FINDER GENERAL
There is a new BBC comedy based on the real life Matthew Hopkins. I implore you not to watch it. Do your research into the real witch-hunts and you will find millions of widows were killed for being ........
MYSOGINIST CRIMES
How do you punish sexists? There are different levels of mysoginist attitudes. I write as a disabled woman. Boys in class hated me for being slow more than for being a girl I thought at that time. ........
YOU CAN’T WIN
You cannot beat a narc, even when you are leaving them. They will wallow in self pity refusing to perform any chores. Our narc doesn’t care that he spoilt our Christmas, nearly drove me to suicide a ........
HOUSE OF FOG
My stepdad has ruined his own home by turning it into a house of negative energy. I am a visualise thinker, s o I visualise the energy as a dense fog curling around the hallway as it seeks victims. ........
ANTISOCIAL
The hermit, recluse, crab, loner, Intravert, antisocial, aloof, supercilious, enigmatic. Yes, I am all of them. I am not s people person. I am silent, withdrawn, detached, remote. I am distant for m ........
KARMA2
You will recall me blogging about a neighbour called Karen, who has bullied me and my neighbours (all of them disabled). I refer to her in the context of karma. Neighbours took the side of the innoc ........
NO EMPATHY FOR THE DISABLED
There is no empathy for the disabled. My ms college mate was abused by a strange woman in the pub. The woman thought the disabled should be locked up out of sight. She was ignorant, but she reflecte ........
GOOD ADVICE
My uncle stopped talking to his parents, siblings and me. My grandad was devastated, but I was released from a spoilt brat. I had always suspected his envy of me as a niece ten years younger. Wyn ha ........
NO EMPATHY FOR AUTISTICS
There is zero empathy for neurodivergents. I speak from bitter experience. The following is some of the abuse I have tolerated in my short life, ‘weirdo, crazy, psycho, loser, lunatic, evil scum, sn ........
COGNITIVE DISSONANCE
Cognitive dissonance was coined by a psychopath to label their mind games against neurotypicals. Their favourite is creating confusion in our minds with their Jekyll and Hyde personas. You never kno ........
ANTI SOCIAL KARMA
This story is true and is backed up by panorama. The documentary covered antisocial neighbours who ruin lives. A woman next door to me, Karen, lived in the flat upstairs to a pensioner and her disab ........
IT WON’T WORK
My stepdad spoilt our Christmas. My mam told him she was leaving him. She stopped talking to him, and refused him mountains of mush He calls food. When I say food you have to visualise a mixture of ........
BAD COMPANY
Bad company fosters evil in saints. If stepdad dies on the floor in front of me I will enjoy his agony. He has ruined my life, my mam,s life, his kids lives and nearly driven me to suicide. Should ........
FEAR
Fear the male next door. Fear limits all women. Fear the rapist. Fear the troll. Fear the vengeful ex with nude photos. Fear the stalker. Fear the drunk stepdad. Fear the wife beater. Fear the the g ........
SINGLE TON
I chose to be single not to be exploited by predators. I knew I would be lonely but I would have peace of mind that there would be no violence, break up, cohesive control,mind games such as gaslight ........
GRINCH
I am a Grinch. I hate Christmas dinner with stepdad. I hate his food which is piled so high with layers of veg that the dinner amounts to a chaotic mess, which you could climb once you have swum pas ........
SEXISM AND INTROVERTS
Sexists hate introverted women. All women should be chatting away to males, flirting and stroking their egos. They find confident women attractive. Alas, I don’t chat, I don’t flirt, I don’t complim ........
NARCISSISTS LOVE RED MEAT
My stepdad ate red meat at least twice a day. Breakfast was fried bacon, and tea was fried pork. Sunday was a beef roast. When we went out for food it was fried gammon. If we had a salad he had it w ........
BOOK PROMOTION TWO
My book is written from the perspective of a person with autism i.e from the perspective of an outsider. An outsider who does not think like a neurotypical. A neurotypical uses their left analytical ........
BOOK PROMOTION
I wrote a book which is honest, insightful, funny, historical and Uplifting. Why did I write it? Was it revenge on stepdad? Was it a cathartic release of pent up rage? Was I helping other domestic v ........
BEAUTY MYTH
You are not going to get a great life based solely on looks, or even personality. The truth is you need brains enough to outwit all the sharks out there. My mother had looks when she met her first h ........
NO EMPATHY
I desire to warn you about the pitfalls of empathy when dealing with a narcissist. I am from a family of feelers, which should be a virtue. Sadly, in my case it was never a virtue. My stepdad played ........
A FUNNY STORY THAT WAS UNFUNNY AT THE TIME
I bleed I will tell you a funny story that was unfunny at the time. Actually, I will tell you two similar stories set in my teenage years. First story, I went to Koblenz at fourteen on a school trip ........
EXTREMES
Don’t be fat, don’t be thin, don’t be spotty, don’t be pale, don’t be hairy, don’t be sweaty, don’t be grim, don’t be shy, don’t be aloof, don’t be sharp, don’t swear, don’t don’t be single, don’t b ........
THE BODY SHAPERS I AM THIN, I AM SPOTTY, I DON’T GIVE A SHIT!
Body shaming is nearly always sexist. There was the fat shaming done in the eighties to fat girls. There was the spot shaming done to me by boys. I was called ugly by my own stepdad. He was a revoul ........
NARCISSIST AND ECHO
Who was poor echo? Echo faded away after being rejected by the eternal git narcissist. Her voice remained after her body faded away. What happened to her body? Did she no longer need it after a sexy ........
NON MATERNAL I AM NOT MATERNAL
I have been criticized for not having kids. I can’t look after myself, so why would I get pregnant. My decision is rational. Autism runs in my family. It is genetic And I don’t want a disabled child ........
THE NARCISSIST COUPLE
Like attracts like, which leads to bad karma. I will tell you about my narcissist neighbour, who used all her boyfriends for money. The woman was bad tempered, attention seeking and callous. When a ........
SEXISM AND AUTISM
Autistic women suffer more sexism than normal women. We get misled, Exploited and belittled. I was not taught to read male body language. I was unaware this older man was flirting with me at eightee ........
NARCISSIST RIDICULE
Every narcissist I have met thought they had a right to ridicule the disabled. The disabled in wheelchairs are treated either with pity or dismissively ignored. But what about the mentally disabled? ........
BAD KARMA
I will share a tale about my uncle who was so spoilt that he lived with his parents until he was thirty. During that time he took drugs, bullied his mother and stole my books to give to his single m ........
SPITE AND NARCISSISM
The narcissist is brimming with spite, which is passive aggressive. My neighbor had to be reported after threatening behaviour towards me. She had also bullied a pensioner neighbor, who was a widow. ........
NARCISSISM AND SEXISM NARCISSISM
Narcissism and sexism Narcissism is more prevalent in men for one simple reason – it is condoned in men, even accepted. You think about it, men can sleep Around without judgement. Men can leave thei ........
NARCISSIST STEPDAD AND ENVY
My stepdad is a sorry excuse for a human. He is pathologically envious for no reason. We all feel envy of a better job, car, home, even of a person with a better body. It is an irrational emotion wh ........
AUTISM AND CONTROL
Actually, control is the wrong word, we will call it gaslight ING. In the film with that title it was a man playing is wife, but women are equally capable of such a mind game. I am going to talk in ........
TOLERANCE
I am tolerated in my society like A boil on the backside which you can’t reach to burst. I am tolerated providing I know my place, just as a spider knows to hid away under a chair, bed or a crack in ........
AUTISM AND MENTAL ILLNESS SOCIETY
Autism and mental illness Society has forced many disabled into self-imposed isolation because of misunderstandings, ridicule and downright contempt. There is the notion that we are thick. Well, tru ........
OBSESSION IS WHAT TO SAY ABOUT SPECIAL INTERESTS
I have had my share of obsessive interests. The first being a school project on insects. My love of ladybirds triggered my interest, which soon extended to include butterflies and stick insects . I ........
INTROVERSION AUTISM
Introversion Autism runs in my family on my mother’s side, which I have traced back to my great grannie. All of us are introverted, but not all us share the same brain structure. My great aunt, for ........
AUTISM AND EMPHATHY
There is a myth that we lack empathy. I had a lack of empathy As a child due to an inability to read body language, including facial expressions. As I grew older I learned to read others over time. ........
AUTISM SPECTRUM
I was diagnosed with Asperger’s syndrome in my adulthood which helped me come to terms with all my social limits, my social anxiety, my depression I am relieved to finally have a label for all my in ........